It’s such a small thing - this thing I want to do. But it has eluded me for 15 years.
I want to sing in a wedding.
I was even asked - twice. I’ll never forget the first time.
After receiving an invitation to a friend’s wedding in 2000 that I didn’t really feel right about attending (long story), she called the week of the wedding and I felt terrible so I said I would go. I had no reason not to.
I sat at a table with a group of people who were once close friends of mine. My life path went in a different direction and though we parted ways gradually and without malice, I felt awkward nonetheless. I didn’t know what to say to them anymore.
One of the group was at an adjacent table with his fiancée. She was a little older than he was and had three kids - he was only 25 or 26, so there were eye brows raised more than once as conversation flowed. This was my first time meeting her, seeing them as a couple. My friend (I’ll call him Tim) apparently told his fiancée (I’ll call her Tina) that he used to sing duets with me and was complimentary of my abilities. So, without hearing me sing, she came over and asked me to sing in their wedding.
I was thrilled! It was out-of-the-blue, totally unexpected and completely flattering to me that she asked. I happily gave her my number and she said she would call.
That was in September.
I happened to see Tim come into the retail store that I worked nights in November - roughly two months later. He saw me too and came over to say hello. Though my phone had never rung with the call from him or Tina, he also didn’t mention the invitation to sing. He did mention that his wedding was taking place on the coming Saturday (news to me).
So, not only was I not invited to sing at his wedding any longer, I was also not invited to the wedding.
I’m not totally sure why I was excluded, though it may have had something to do with that long story I mentioned earlier. Either way, it was disappointing. It hurt, but mostly I was just excited to get to sing at a wedding.
My second invitation to sing was when I was supposed to sing at my brother’s wedding, but we were having some technical difficulties prior to the ceremony. I misread the cue from the guy handling them (he said it was working and to go ahead - I thought he said it wasn’t working) so I didn’t sing even though everything was all ready for me to belt it out. That was disappointing for me and my brother, who’d genuinely wanted me to sing for his wedding.
Maybe one day I’ll get to sing at a wedding, but I’ll need to start doing some warm-ups soon. I’m so far out of practice, it’ll likely take me years to catch up. Maybe I can be ready by the time Brandon’s ready to get married. ;)