The quickest way to lose my respect

I stumbled across a blog post tonight that pretty much infuriated me. I won’t link to it here, because I don’t want to indentify it. I’m also not going to share specifically what was said. 

In trying to get action or answers, the writer made some very judgmental and unfair statements about parents. Specifically, parents who choose to do things differently than the writer. As a parent who took that different track, I was shocked by the vitriol and negativity, especially in light of the blog’s purpose. 

What makes it worse is that I hadn’t ever visited this blog before, nor am I likely to return. All over an issue that shouldn’t even be directed at other parents, but it spilled over anyway.

I’m tired of the judgmental attitudes in parenting. This “I’m right. You’re wrong” mentality is exhausting and alienating. I get that there are strong views about every parenting topic under the sun, but when you start calling parents names and making assumptions about why they’ve made certain choices, you’re crossing into territory that I find objectionable.

It would be so nice to live in a world where parents can live side-by-side and not snipe at each other over these differing viewpoints. At the very least, it would be nice if each side would just try to understand where the other side is coming from.

But know this: If you make disparaging comments and generalizations about parents who do something you disagree with, you have automatically turned me off of your point of view. Even if you weren’t trying to argue your side of things in the first place, you will lose a follower and ultimately the opportunity to convert me to your way of thinking, too.

Bloggers need to watch what they say. Strong opinions are fine, but being disrespectful is not.