Three years old is an interesting age

It’s been nearly three months since Brandon turned 3 and it’s been such a roller coaster ride. Day-to-day we never know if he’s going to be frustrated that he can’t have what he wants or if he’ll willingly go along with whatever we choose to do.

On the one hand, it’s fascinating to see him expressing preferences and making decisions. On the other, he has this ability to ignore and gloss over problems in ways that far surpass the skill I’ve seen from even the best politicians. It’s like he doesn’t hear a word I’m saying if he doesn’t like what those words are.

Regardless of the challenges, this little boy of mine is so precious and lovable and FUN!

Brandon has a quiet personality. He is busy, but self-contained and not terribly social. So, imagine our surprise and amusement as he’s started to open up and talk more and more over the past few weeks. Not only to us, but to adults he’s rarely spoken to previously! This is progress I’m excited about.

One thing that pleases me to no end is that Brandon is developing a good sense of humour and a desire to make other people smile or laugh. For a couple of years, he’s actually requested to be tickled from time to time. He just seems to enjoy the silliness and closeness it inspires in all of us - but most especially with Matt. Matt has taught Brandon how to give “snake bites”, a firm fingertip grab that makes just about anyone tickle and squirm. Matt tells Brandon to “give Mommy snake bites” and he dutifully complies, grabbing my forearm or leg. I, in turn, laugh because that’s what Brandon wants me to do.

I see the way Brandon looks at other children on the playground. Older kids who are having fun make him smile and want to join in. For the most part, older kids don’t pay much attention to him other than to avoid inadvertantly hurting him. And that’s okay because he doesn’t notice that they are playing around him and not with him. He just loves seeing the fun they’re having; he has fun because they are.

The best part of my day is hearing the little gems that come out of Brandon’s mouth. As he’s talking more and more these days, we’re experiencing his push for increased independence and the ever-increasing joys of communication.

Brandon: I’ll be right back.

Me: Where are you going?

Brandon: Brandon is going to be right back.

(Translation: I don’t want to say in case you won’t let me.)

*****

Brandon: Want to wear coat.

Me: Why?

Brandon: It’s pretty cold oupside.

(Translation: I want to wear my raincoat ouTside.)

*****

Brandon: Fixa da buppons. 

(Translation: Button my coat.)

I get to hang out with this awesome little guy every single day. It doesn’t get any better than that.