I'm so thankful for my son's father

It's Mother's Day and I'm already starting my Father's Day post.


I'm so glad you asked.

In my Mother’s Day post this year I talked about how easy it is to forget to express gratitude on a day-to-day basis to the ones we love most. So I'm taking the next six weeks or so to do just that for my husband. He's not going to see it until Father's day as a surprise gift. I want to show him that even when I don't say it I'm still thinking about how thankful I am for all the ways he impacts our lives - large and small.

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Dear Matt,

May 9 - I'm thankful for your thoughtful gifts on Mother's Day, including time you spent with our son so I could have a few hours of me time.

In the hospital, just a few days old and only daddy's finger will calm him down.May 10 - I'm thankful that you're so willing to occupy Brandon to give me time to fix my face without interruption each morning.

May 11 - I'm thankful that you are so sensitive to the needs of my family, no matter what the cost.

May 12 - You have such a witty sense of humor that keeps me laughing even through difficult times.

May 13 - Your support of my evenings out at Book Club means a lot.

May 14 - I'm thankful that you're such a handy guy. Our fence is going to look so nice when it's done.

May 15 - I'm thankful that you are so diligent about keeping our car in good working order - and filled up with gas.

Tired boys resting their eyes - just for a few minutes, of course. That glider is very comfy!May 16 - I love watching the games you make up to keep Brandon occupied. And I adore that you sing to him - about everything.

May 17 - Your tender, loving care of our son even when he frustrates you makes me so happy you're the man I share the partnership of parenthood with.

May 18 - You are such a nice guy who cares about doing the right thing even when it's hard. I love a man with character.

May 19 - I'm thankful that after 12 years, we still come home everyday and share all the little tidbits that happened when we were away from each other. I love talking to you and laughing with you.

May 20 - I love when I get to come home after Book Club and you're up waiting for me.

Daddy's hand is a tasty treat - and also it makes a good teether!May 21 - I love that we can have bad days, snipe at each other and once the storm passes, it's over and we're buddies again having fun. Life with you is fun.

May 22 - I'm thankful that our life is (mostly) peaceful. We complement each other well.

May 23 - I'm thankful that we agree on decor and home layouts, because if you had liked what we saw today I would have taken you to get your eyes checked! :)

May 24 - I'm thankful that, even when you're not that enthusiastic about a particular activity I want to do with Brandon you still make the effort to spend and enjoy time with our family.

May 25 - I'm thankful that you are such a detailed and conscientious person with everything you do.

May 26 - I'm thankful every time we have to make a decision that it's usually easy for us to do - even if we sometimes have to hash out different angles. In the end, we usually come to the same conclusion.

May 27 - I love hearing how you handle work situations or read your correspondence. I wish I wrote as well-justified and reasonably worded replies as you do!

May 28 - I appreciate that you're willing to work with me to help maximize the time I get to spend with Brandon even though it means your commute is a little more complex.

May 29 - I appreciate you willingly and meticulously making sure that the trash is taken out, the litter box is clean, the dishes are done and the house is vacuumed - all the chores I don't like to do. (Not to mention a few dozen other things you do all the time as well.)

May 30 - I'm thankful that we work well together, creating an equal division of regular chores so neither of us is too overwhelmed.

Sick little man cuddling with Daddy.May 31 - I'm thankful that you don't mind cooking. Neither of us enjoy it so it's nice to share the misery.

June 1 - I appreciate how hard you work to keep our yard maintained.

June 2 - I'm thankful that you're good with technology. So many things you've set up have made our lives easier and more connected.

June 3 - I love watching you teach Brandon - whether it's how to get a thrill from throwing Dawg down the stairs or how to pull up his pants. You are a good teacher and he's lucky to have you.

June 4 - I love that you have about 100 nicknames each for me and Brandon. Half are sweet and half just make me laugh.

June 5 - I love that you keep a level head about our son and his development.

I wanna be like Daddy!June 6 - I appreciate that you're doing more to learn about what to do with Brandon in various stages and circumstances.

June 7 - I love that you will show Brandon your "toys" and even let him play with them - occasionally.

June 8 - Your intelligence and ability to organize and "fix" systems and processes are two things that always impress me about you. You're quiet and reserved but there is a lot of depth in you that people don't always see right away. I've known it forever and I'm glad to know that part of you so well.

June 9 - Your kindness and generosity to other people makes me want to be a better person.

June 10 - I love how you tease me about the books I read - No matter what I'm reading. You: "Whatca readin'? Is that a book about forbidden love or permitted love?" Me: "Always forbidden. Permitted is boring."

June 11 - I appreciate that we can talk through issues that come up calmly and rationally. You have a calming effect on me and I like the person I am because of it.

Teaching Brandon about Canada's favorite coffee shop - Tim Hortons. Now we have to hide our cups!June 12 - Though you prefer to plan things when you are fairly certain an unanticipated variable isn't going to derail your intentions, Brandon's entrance in our lives has made you more flexible and open to changes in the plan.

June 13 - You have an infectious laugh. I love to hear it when you find something truly funny.

June 14 - You send the nicest emails at times when I need them the most. Your encouragement means a lot.

June 15 - I am thankful that we can be perfectly content spending the evening together side-by-side at our computers in the office or watching a movie together in bed. Simplicity is highly appealing.

June 16 - I love our banter as we go through the evening together. You're my fun buddy!

June 17 - I'm thankful you don't mind that I tease you incessantly and that I can occasionally make you laugh.

June 18 - I'm thankful that our son sees us have fun together.

June 19 - I love that you're into typically "boy" things like construction, RC cars, Lego and technology. I won't be surprised at all if Brandon takes after you.

June 20 - I'm thankful for you, Matt. What you do is only relevant insofar as it is a reflection of who you are - and who you are is an amazing person that I love.

I knew very early on in our relationship that you would make a wonderful father and you've proven my theory true over and over since before Brandon was even born. It's hard to know objectively if you're doing a good job or not as a parent. I'm probably biased but I think you do a fabulous job!

Happy Father's Day, Matt!